Before beginning the college search process, both the student and parent should sit down and discuss what each feels is important. Many times these ‘values’ will be different and need to be addressed. It is important for each person involved in the college search start on the same page. At first, it may be difficult to come to a consensus, but in the long run, it will save many difficult conversations. The following are topics families should discuss when beginning the college process.
Financial Fit
When a student begins the college selection process, it is
essential to have an honest conversation regarding the family's financial
situation. It is imperative that the student understands how much money they
will have to spend on their college education. This has a huge impact on the schools
they will seriously consider. A parent will not love their child any less if
they cannot afford one of the 151 colleges where the cost of attendance is over
$50,000 a year. In addition, parents need to consider themselves too. They
should NEVER borrow from their retirement accounts to pay for higher education.
This may seem like a good short term solution, but in the long run, everyone
will lose when it comes to a parent's retirement.
Location
On average, a student will attend a school that is 94 miles or
about 2-4 hours away from home. Many times, students will want to attend a
college that is farther away. But is this practical? There are many factors
that go into attending school far away.
First off, does the student want a very long car, train or
plane ride to travel to and from school
on breaks/weekends? These factors cost money such as: extra gas,
mileage on a car, or parents driving the student long distances. If a student
is taking a plane, there are other factors that are not realized until later. How
often is it practical for the student to come home? Only on breaks? Consider
that these breaks are during the expensive holiday rush. Will they be able to
come home for a big family occasion? When taking a plane, a student cannot pack
much. They most likely will have to purchase supplies when they arrive at
college. This can include bed sheets, clothes, school supplies, laptop,
toiletries, etc... Once the academic year is over, how will these possessions return
home?
Consider blending the financial and location considerations
together. If you are attending a public school, you might be paying out-of-state
tuition. This will be considerably more expensive for the family.
Where does the student want to begin their career once
college is over? Is your college is in a different geographic area then your home?
Internships, business connections and other networks might not follow them home
for future job opportunities.
Academic fit
It is important to look at schools in which the student will
have a reasonable chance of admission. Most colleges report median ACT/SAT
scores and GPAs on their promotional materials. Do not be put off if the
student does not fall into these ranges. Remember, it is the middle 50% of students
who were ACCEPTED that is reported.
Not all students who are accepted attend the school.
Secondly, that data means there were 25% of students who scored above and below
those numbers. In addition, many schools look at a student's admission holistically.
This means that colleges consider more than standardized test scores and GPAs. Perhaps
the student has a special skill the college needs, such as a bagpiper player or
an equestrian rider. These students might be considered more valuable to the
school, so those skills could overshadow lower standardized test scores.
Remember, students still have the application process to
help themselves shine. Perhaps their essays or interview will impress the
admissions committee. Maybe you have demonstrated your interest in the school
by attending an open house, filling out a card at a college fair, or contacting
the admissions office for clarification on an issue. Another way to bolster
your chances of acceptance is to apply to a school in a different geographic
region. For example, your chances can be helped if you are from the Midwest and
apply to an East Coast school that does not traditionally have a large
representation.
Social Fit
What kind of school would the student be most successful
attending? A large school with 15,000 or more students? Here, there are a
plethora of majors to consider if they enter undecided. In addition, a student
might experience the independence they are ever so seeking.
Perhaps your student would succeed at a medium sized school
(5,000-15,000 students). Here, a student could still receive the large school
atmosphere, but also not be overwhelmed by a sizeable campus.
Maybe a small school, with enrollment at or below 5000
students, would be best. Here, a student may find professors who are willing to
take a personal interest in them.
Students can also have program advisors to help guide their academic
situations while personally knowing each student in their academic programs.
Thomas J. Jaworski will be the guest speaker at Resurrection
College Prep High School's Parent Club meeting on Tuesday, March 19, 2013 at 7
pm in the school library.